Never fool yourself into thinking that the workings of human reality are set in stone. When you are told that true love will find you only if you stop looking for it, you are not being told the truth. True love will or will not find you when it damn well pleases to. There is no ritual with which true love can be willed into existence. It’s also quite the contradiction to stop looking for true love because you are so desperate to find it. Aren’t you still looking, just in a different way?
You can find true love by trawling the city streets every chance you get, fantasizing about all the people you meet, always flirting, always doing your best to end up with someone each night. You can also find it when you least expect it. Indeed; when you aren’t looking for it. But these are just things happening. This is just the world turning. Random events leading up to other random events. Love happens. Sometimes. And that’s all there is to it.
The same can be said for many things. Some people will tell you that you can’t be a writer unless you practice writing every day for five years before you attempt to write something substantial. Before you start working on your big hit, your magnum opus. Some people will tell you that art can only be created when you’re free, or sad, or horny, or high. They are all wrong. Fuck, even I am wrong. I don’t know shit about shit. But I do know that this goes for everybody else as well.
My point isn’t that everything is pointless. No – as anyone who has lived for a while knows, the world is really quite pointy, and it will poke holes in you all too often. Things having a point and a meaning is not what I’m talking about here. That’s for you to decide, as I couldn’t possibly fathom what meaning is to other people. All I’m saying is this: don’t get fooled into thinking that the workings of human reality are set in stone. You have never lived this life before. You have never been in this moment before. Nobody else has ever been where you are now. You are free to explore the world using your own faculties, drawing your own conclusions and shaping your own future. There are no train tracks to follow unless you build them yourself.